Looks of doubt in the eyes of my colleagues; what should I do?

Dear sister, Welcome to (Alukah) Website and thank you for your trust.

I have read your message, and I can understand what you feel and the harshness of your colleagues' mockery without a purpose; there is no doubt you shall have the great reward for observing patience.

I would like to refer to a very important point:

My dear Muslim sister, we are responsible for our feelings. We are the ones who decide how to interact with the winks and mockery of others. The talk and mockery of your colleagues are not the cause of what you feel, in fact there is another factor which we often neglect which is ourselves. How do we look at their speech and situation? How do we analyze it? What do we say to ourselves? How do we evaluate the importance of their sayings to us?

Always remember the golden base which says: "Events do not make feelings, but the way in which we look at events makes our feelings."

This interprets the different feelings of a group of people toward the same event. For example, firing of job may be

● A disaster for some people: "I was fired from work, I am a loser."

● A chance for another: "I was dismissed from work, perhaps it is a chance for a better offer."

● A feeling of guilt: "I was dismissed from work, who shameful that I did not exert all my efforts to keep it."

I want you to revise the ideas which are going on in your mind about their claims and mockery and see how do you look to yourself. With close observance and correction to these ideas and by the passage of time your psychological skills develop and you shall master the art of dealing with others.

May Allah guide you to all good.