The Duties and Responsibilities of the Husband and
Wife

On this, I remember something that I will mention. One of my  friends said  to me, “You always give lectures on having mercy  and  compassion on  wives,  but  you  never  mention the rights  of husband over  the  wife”,  whereas many times  I had mentioned that  if their husband sleeps  displeased, then your tasbeeh  and   Tahajjud  is  all  in  vain.  The angles curse   that woman the whole   night   whose husband sleeps away while being angry with her. What greater right of the husband can I mention? However, this poor person used to be very mindful of his wife.  She was a bit temperamental. One day laughing he said, “There is an organization of which I am the president and chairman.” I said, “Brother, this sentence is very enjoyable.” Jokingly he said, “due to Allah Ta’ala’s grandeur, for His pleasure, to bear and be patient on Allah’s servants (the wives) is not being a Mureed of women, but is amongst her rights.  One has to bear her crookedness because she has been created from a crooked rib.

Rasulullah (Sallellaho Alaihe Wasallam) said that a woman is like a crooked rib.  This is from a narration of Bukhari Sharif. See is your crooked rib doing its work or not? If you   make   it straight, it will break. Leaving it crooked is beneficial   for   you.    Do   your    work    with    its   crookedness. Therefore, be soft and compassionate in matters relating to your wife.  Explain to her.  Caution her from the Qur’an and Hadith so that she knows the rights of her husband. If a wife performs Tahajjud  the  whole   night   and cries  in  her  Sajdah, but her husband is upset with  her,  then  she  receives  the  curses  of the angels.  This Hadith is sufficient for her.

My friends! I was saying  that  if one’s son threats his wife kindly in  accordance  with   the  Shariah,  then   some   parents  quickly curse  him,  “May  Allah  Ta'ala  make  it  such  that  you  do  not leave  this  world with  Imaan, may  Allah  Ta'ala  destroy you.” This is a great injustice and such a curse is not even permissible. Such parents should reform and correct themselves and they should continuously study the eleventh part of Behishti Zewar in which the rights of one’s parents, wife and children are mentioned, so that they could gain some understanding.