My wife is termagant and my character is weak before her

As-salamu `Alaykum warahmatullah wabarakatuh (May Allah's Peace, Mercy, and Blessings be upon you!)

I read an advice on your site which is similar to my case, but my problem is bigger and more complex, where:

1. My children are young; so if I divorce my wife, my children will be the losers because they want to live with their mother despite her cruelty.

2. We are living abroad in Britain and I am afraid to leave my children there or give them to a woman who does not know how to live peacefully.

3. Even our sexual life is either non-existent for months or years or I see myself the only party who thinks about, feeling that she does not have the desire for sexual intercourse because of her indifference about it.

4. It is possible to turn the house into hell if a little sum of money is spent without her consent.

5. I own a house and she owns a piece of land and she blames me for not adding my house to her possession; taking into consideration that happened by accident not intentionally.

6. She always yells and fights with our neighbors which defamed our reputation and the reputation of our religion, taking into account that she is religious in regard of Islamic duties, but her manners are bad.

7. As a man, I need sexual intercourse but polygyny is illegal in the country where we live, and the children are now insulting me if I speak about marrying a second wife.

8. I failed in my professional life because of her, knowing that I am a university graduate, but I could not find a job. Moreover, I got several diseases such as: Oblivion, diabetes, general weakness, continuous grief, and the bitterness of life day and night.

9. My wife made me the lowest person in front of my children because all of her fights take place in front of the children. When I advise the children, she hurries to defend them as if she is their lawyer.

10. My advices to the children are: I advise them to eat enough food, adhere to good manners, avoid filial disobedience, and I advise them about respecting their mother because this is one of the duties of Islam.

11. I have no friends and I do not know anyone to speak to and relieve myself, but what I do is to leave the house for several hours, however yells and fights last day and night and I do not know what to do?

I think about the lives of my children who do not know their own interest because of their young age and lack of life experience.

We cannot go to another Muslim country in which the law permits polygyny so as to marry another woman because I am sick and broken. I cannot be successful to get a visa then marry a second wife. Furthermore, I am very shy and I cannot narrate my story to someone face to face to ask for a visa in any Muslim country.

Who could think that a Muslim family would be like that because of a woman?!

My children believe that I am better than their mother in terms of manners and kind treatment, but they do not want to leave their mother anyway.

I hope to get a visa in any Muslim country which permits polygyny and I ask Allah to open the gates of His Mercy and Bounty for us because no one owns them but He.

Wass-salamu `Alaykum warahmatullah wabarakatuh (May Allah's Peace, Mercy, and Blessings be upon you!).