My friend slapped me before my friends

As-salamu `Alaykum warahmatullah wabarakatuh (May Allah's Peace, Mercy, and Blessings be upon you!).

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First, I would like to note that sometimes we mix up things and consider the one who receives beating from others is the one to be blamed and humiliated.

On the contrary, I liked your attitude very much because you did not slap him back despite your ability to do so. I am proud of you, and that incident indicates that you are more powerful than him.

I remind you of the Prophet's Hadith which reads: "The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger." That was your action which indicates your calmness, balance, and suppressing anger, as it also indicates high moral behavior and good manners; that is what Muslim youth need these days.

So, be confident of your actions and ward off any other bad ideas such as: You are feeling weakness or defeated, try to convince yourself with the opposite and you are the best.

It seems that you are very sensitive and people like you have their own explanations to different situations, sometimes they exaggerate things which makes you treat others with high sensitivity as if they cannot forget the accident of slapping. What I want you to do is to rethink because what happened to you is something ordinary and takes place very often in schools and colleges. There are some friends who like to bother others, such people you have to be open with them and tell them that you do not like that. If they accept you as such, it will be ok, but if they do not, avoid them if that situation is repeated.

Be keen to find good company for your own and you have to keep invoking Allah.

I advise you to sit with yourself and think in the current situation and you shall figure out that the matter is much easier than you think and it has nothing to do with humiliation or disgrace, and be sure that the attitude you follow is better than the attitude of your friend.

I hope that you reduce your sensitivity and be more lenient with others and their mistakes. Learn the art of ignoring or overlooking a situation or a word which a friend once said to you.

You should respond with: May Allah forgive you. Be sure you shall build up good relationships with others and you will find a friend to like.

My advice to you is to focus on you study and give it the first priority in order to be one of the successful and keep to Salah in its due times in congregation in order to know good people and to share charitable actions with them. Do not forget the importance of practicing sport by all its types, particularly team sports.

Finally, I advise you with observing patience, tolerance, and trust in Allah and invoking Him.

May Allah guide you to the best and reform your conditions.