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I Want to Take a Decision

Counselor: Areej Al-Tabbaa

Published On: 15/8/2010 A.D. - 5/9/1431 H.   Visited: 3627 times     


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I want to take a decision: Should I go back to my husband or ask for divorce?

 

I have married two months ago and stayed with my husband for ten days. Those days should have been our honey moon, but thanks to Allah, they were not because problems started from the second day of marriage.

 

My husband and I had a slight misunderstanding then he fell suddenly in the bathroom and it seems that he had a convulsion. Then he said to me: He imagined that there was a spell sprinkled on my nightdress. I got scared then he brought a Sheikh to treat me, and despite my incredulity, I underwent the experience.

 

My husband had a bad habit which is: He used to tell his father of everything that took place between us then his father would come to present advices because my husband does not have a strong personality.

 

One day, we disputed about something; he raised his voice and was about to beat me, but he did not. He phoned his father then we went to his parents' house and there his father hit me and his mother insulted me, but my husband did not do anything. He even did not defend or protect me, so I left him.

 

Now, he sends some people to reconcile between us. I am very confused, what should I do?

Answer

Although I have many accumulated counsels that await answers, as soon as I read your question I could not delay it because of your condition.

 

I imagined my sister or my daughter in your place. In my counsels, I never dictated marriage or divorce to any questioner as I consider it a personal responsibility and it is difficult to decide for the questioner.

 

However, in your case - as you mentioned - I wonder on what basis you will go back to him?

 

If this is their treatment to you in your honeymoon, what it would be when you live with them?

 

If this is their treatment in your young age, what will be the case when you grow old?

I wonder what is the position of your family! You did not tell us.

 

You need to restore your condition and pull your punches after you what you had experienced. Even the Sheikh whom he brought to treat you, do you trust him?

 

Pull your punches and do not let anyone to insult you again. Trust me, when this is the beginning, it is difficult to guarantee the ends.

 

The book is known from its title as the saying goes, or what do you think?

 

Saving yourself from such atmosphere is good, so be heedful to preserve your life, no matter the pain of ending the relation is painful, it will be better than continuing in such atmosphere.

 

Do not overlook the impact of Istikharah (supplication for guidance) and make it before any decision you make. The decision of ending the relation is based on the behavior you wrote which are not accepted at all, no matter what fault you have done. Be careful to train yourself not to engage in a dispute with someone with whom you cannot reach a conclusion. Watch your steps carefully because disagreement is possible to happen among people, but some of them are more difficult than others and in this case, the matter needs more wisdom. Therefore, train yourself for it by dealing with others in general. May Allah guide you, facilitate your affairs, and compensate you the best.



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