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Marrying a woman whom was betrothed by someone

Sheikh Khalid `Abdul-Mon`im Ar-Rifa`y

Published On: 21/10/2013 A.D. - 16/12/1434 H.   Visited: 6486 times     


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In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful

As-salamu `Alaykum warahmatullah wabarakatuh (May Allah's Peace, Mercy, and Blessings be upon you!)

I have a problem that confused me a lot and I hope that you give me some advice:

I am a young Muslim man who is 23 years old. I admired a girl and I made up my mind to marry her. I told my mother and my father to come with me to betroth her. Few months later her father responded with acceptance. I was very happy and I thanked Allah and so did my parents and brethren. However, the problem is: Her cousin proposed to her but her father refused because they had problems in between as his family said. When I heard the news of her cousin, I got afraid to spoil the relationship between them. Satan insinuated evil ideas into my mind -I ask Allah to forgive me-, so I called her personally and we had a short phone call during which I asked her whether I had corrupted the relationship between her and her cousin or not to withdraw my proposal without any problem. She answered my clearly saying: There is nothing between him and me.

What should I do? It is worth mentioning that they agreed that the marriage contract may be written soon; should I rely on Allah and commence marriage?

Could you kindly advise me?

May Allah reward you the best! Thank you!

Answer

All praise be to Allah and peace be upon His Messenger, upon his family, his Companions, and those who follow him.

You have mentioned that the girl is a Muslim, so if she is of good manner, religious, and offer Salah, relay on Allah and commence marriage because the Prophet (peace be upon him) exhorted Muslims to hold firm with religious girls. Al Bukhari and Muslim reported on the authority of Abu Hurayrah, (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: "So, you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a losers."

He also said: "A woman is married for four reasons, for her religion, her property, her status, her beauty, so you should choose one with religion. May your hands cleave to dust." [Reported by Muslim on the authority of Jabir]. If she has some defects, by advice, guidance, and calling her to goodness she will be good with the willing of Allah. Leave out Satan insinuations and forget about the betrothal of her cousin because she has nothing to do with it and no girl is safe from engagements. Moreover, they have no relationship in between especially she had told you that clearly, so ask Allah for good choice and leave out hesitance.



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