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My problem with marriage

Sheikh Sa`d ibn `Abdullah Al Humayyid

Published On: 1/4/2014 A.D. - 30/5/1435 H. Visited: 7417 times

Question

I would like to review my problem, perhaps I find someone to solve it.

I am 41 and unmarried because I am paralyzed due to unknown sickness. I am using a wheelchair but my body is not distorted at all due to this disability, and thanks to Allah, the lord of the worlds.

In 2000, I was forced to use a stick to maintain my balance while walking and my condition deteriorated gradually until 2006 where I was unable to stand, so I was forced to use a wheelchair.

I was an employer in the ministry of rearing and education, but I retired because of my condition. I have a flat and a good salary, thanks to Allah.

My problem is: I cannot find a girl to accept my condition although I have been searching for about 18 years.

You shall say: Disability does not prevent marriage. I say to you: This is true, but in my condition, I cannot find someone agrees with my condition.

I have a neighbor whose two legs are cut off and he has married; now, he has five children. I know another paralyzed person who is married, and there are other examples.

I have searched a lot by the help of the family, relatives, friends, and work mates, even the imam of the masjid in which I offer Fridays Salah, moreover I did not forget to publish that in newspapers, magazines, and the Internet, however the result was negative.

I was confused and I do not know what to do.

Answer

As-salamu `Alaykum warahmatullah wabarakatuh (May Allah's Peace, Mercy, and Blessings be upon you!)

I have read your question and I ask Allah with His Beautiful Names and Attributes to reward and help you in your problem. I commend you with patience to get the reward from Allah because the great reward is based on patience. Remember what Allah prepared for the patient and you have to ponder over the Qur'an and the people whom Allah narrated their stories such as Ayyub (Jacob) (peace be upon him).

Dear brother, no doubt that you have the right to ask and search, but beware of despair, do not open the gates for Satan, and do not get sad. However, get easy with yourself because sadness and sorrow will not contribute in solving your problem, but it may add another problem that you will not feel but after its escalation. If you look at your problem carefully, you shall find a solution. Perhaps one of the right solutions for your problem is that you have reviewed your problem on Alukah Website to help you reach a solution perhaps the girls who are reading your letter takes a courageous decision and accept you as a husband.

Dear brother, there are some sites which match between men and women and help them to marry, so you have to search for these sites, and when you are sure of their sound method, go ahead.

I also commend you to widen your search to include all women not only those in your region or country, be optimist because many women are eager to find good men even if they have defects that do not prevent the basic rights of marriage.

And As-salamu `Alaykum warahmatullah wabarakatuh (May Allah's Peace, Mercy, and Blessings be upon you!)

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