I am weak before my Fiancée!

As-salamu `Alaykum warahmatullah wabarakatuh (May Allah's Peace, Mercy, and Blessings be upon you!).

There are matters may not affect us instantly but its accumulation is very painful and time increases its difficulty.

Your problem is of that kind, so pay attention not to complicate the matter and start to treat her immediately in order to avoid its bad effect.

Many people, unfortunately, do not realize that women appreciate a strong man more than the weak even if his weakness is due to his love and affection, but strength is not by loud voice nor by coercion and domination, but with trust and respect which you give to your wife.

You need more time but it is difficult to turn over after marriage. Start now and clarify this image to her but if you let the matter to the after marriage stage, it will be a fuse for all problems.

You can search for the method suitable for her nature and it is better to say it with confidence without blame. Tell her about what you love and what you expect from her.

Pay attention: You will not change her even if you want to help her change for the better, but it is difficult to change her completely.

Moreover, be firm when dealing with her because women like those who correct them, therefore people may criticize women a lot. You can overcome that by having dialog with her, be clear and honest with her loving and firm at the same time.

Start dealing with your problem instantly and remember that when you reach a compromise with your wife, you need first to understand the keys of your wife and the way of dealing with her, and you should help her to understand you too.

There is no doubt that change will not happen between a day and a night but it takes time, so do not make that frustrate you and do not rush up things. Just remember and understand that change is not the way for compatibility.

May Allah grant you success and facilitated your matters!