I love someone who considers me just a girl friend

Welcome my dear.

Your counsel confused me so much!

Your personal information indicates that you are from a conservative Arab and Muslim country, no matter how your affair with the boy is but the matter of having sex with him is a red line that cannot be violated.

However, you say that you are surprised at the way he looks to the problem of having sex with you!

My dear, I apologize in advance because I may be harsh on you, but I do that for your own interest; you have asked for our counsel and a counselor is entrusted to provide good advice.

You have not mentioned the details of how did you know that guy and I do not care to know them, but what seems to be obvious is that the guy have exploited you because he considers you the source of fun, amusement, and fulfilling his sex desires without paying much attention to your love or care for him. Why does he refuse to marry you if he really loves you?!

If he really loves you, how does he agree to have sex with you while he knows its social consequences against you because no one will know about him!

This is not love, this is an exploitation, meanness, and lack of morals and religion.

My dear, is he mistaken one hundred percent?

Certainly not; the biggest problem lies in you because you let him transgress his limits and you allowed him to have sex with you several times and did not feel even for a moment that sex outside marriage is religiously and socially forbidden.

Let me ask you a question and I hope that you send the answer, perhaps after your answer I would be able to find a solution for your problem.

"Why do not you see any problem in having sex with him? Are you coming from an open society to the point that it is not a big difference to have sex with a man?!"

I am waiting for your answer.

However, I say: This is a fornication and both of you should subject to the prescribed punishment of fornication. As for the society, the girl who commits fornication is subject to the harshest kinds of psychological and physical punishments from the members of her family.

My dear, if you do not know the Shari`ah ruling and the punishment of the Hereafter for that act, have not you thought what you are going to do if you do not marry him?!

Would you tell your future husband about your past affair and that you had sexual intercourse with him or won't you ever marry? Did not your parents ask you where were you going or when were you going back or what have you been doing?

My dear, what I want from you now is to answer these questions so as to be able to find the solution for your problem.

Until that time, I say to you: Please stop completely and immediately what you are doing with that man.

Be more respectful to yourself and to your family and parents.

And the most importantly: Be more respectful to the Lord of the Worlds.

If you love that man that much, put your trust in Allah and go on with your life with him in a permissible and legal way which is marriage.

May Allah help you and make things easy for you.

I am waiting for your answers.