Good Manners a Muslim should follow (1/5)

A- Good morality:

It was narrated by Abi El-Darda’a that The Prophet Mohammed said: “Nothing will be heavier on the Day of Resurrection in the Scale of the believer than good manners. Allah hates one who utters foul or coarse language.”(narrated by At-Tirmidhi).

And the Prophet was asked: Who are the best people? He said: “Those with the best manners.”

And it was narrated by Aisha that she said: I heard the Prophet saying: “A believer will attain by his good behavior the rank of one who prays during the night and observes fasting during the day.”(Reported by Abu Dawud)

Allah, the Almighty praised his Messenger as Allah says:

“And verily, you (O Muhammad SAW) are on an exalted standard of character.” (Surat Al-Qalam: 4)

When Aisha was asked about the morals of the Prophet Mohammed (peace be upon him), she said: “His morals were Quran.”

And the Prophet of God said about himself: “My God Allah raised me with good manners and perfected my manners.”

For this reason, be sure that you follow the morals of the Prophet of Allah to get the happiness of life and the Hereafter. Abu Hurairrah reported: The Prophet (peace be upon him) was asked about the deed which will be foremost to lead a man to Jannah. He replied, “Fear of Allah and the good conduct.” (Reported by At-Tirmidhi).

People with good morals will be closer to the prophet Mohammed in the Day of Judgment.

It was narrated by Jaber that the Prophet said: “The dearest and nearest among you to me on the Day of Resurrection will be one who is the best of you in manners.” (Reported by At-Tirmidhi)

Good morals in life have good effects on the whole community and the religion in general.

Note that, Islam was spread in the countries of East Asia via the Muslim traders and their good morals.

The following are some of good morals that each Muslim should follow:

1- Patience:

Patience is an exalted standard of character and it is an imitation of righteous people as Allah says on His Prophet’s tongue (Jacob) when his sons claimed that his son Joseph had been eaten by a wolf:

 “Patience is most fitting. And it is Allah (Alone) Whose help can be sought against that which you assert." (Surat Yusuf: 18)

Also, when Jacob’s sons returned from Egypt without their youngest brother he said:

“So patience is most fitting (for me). May be Allah will bring them (back) all to me. Truly He! only He is All-Knowing, All-Wise." (Surat Yusuf: 83).

Patience is Sunnah of our Prophet Mohammed and his companions as they bore patiently Quraish’s torture and punishment to them as Allah describes them in His Holy Quran:

“And who are As-Sabirin (the patient ones, etc.) in extreme poverty and ailment (disease) and at the time of fighting (during the battles). Such are the people of the truth and they are AlMuttaqun.”(Surat Al-Baqarah: 177)

It was related that Suhaib said that the Messenger of Allah said: “The ways of a believer are different, for he sees goodness in all that happens to him, and this is not so with other than a believer, for if he has reason to be happy, he gives thanks to God, and so, there is goodness for him in it. And if he suffers affliction, he endures it with patience, and so there is goodness for him in it.”(Reported by Muslim)

And it was narrated by Abu Said and Abu Hurairrah that the Prophet said: “Never a believer is stricken with a discomfort, an illness, an anxiety, a grief or mental worry or even the pricking of a thorn but Allah will expiate his sins on account of his patience.”(Reported by al-Bukhari and Mulslim)

There are several kinds of patience:

- being patient in the obedience to Allah. Allah says:

 “Only those who are patient shall receive their rewards in full, without reckoning”. (Surat Az-Zumar: 10)

- being patient in keeping away from prohibitions. The Prophet Mohammed said: “Whosever leaves something for the sake of Allah, the Mighty and Magnificent, will replace it with something better than it”. (Recorded by Ahmed)

- being patient with that which Allah has decreed. Allah says:

“Who, when afflicted with calamity, say: "Truly! To Allah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return {156} They are those on whom are the Salawat (i.e. blessings, etc.) (i.e. who are blessed and will be forgiven) from their Lord, and (they are those who) receive His Mercy, and it is they who are the guided-ones.” (Surat Al-Baqarqh: 157)

2- Leaving the dispute:

It was narrated by Aby Omamah that the Prophet of Allah said: “I am a leader in a house outskirts of Paradise for whoever leaves disputing even if he is right, and in a house in the middle of Paradise for whoever leaves lying even if he was joking and in a house at the top of Paradise for a man who has good morality.” (narrated by abu Dawod).

It is for this son, Allah the Almighty ordained His Messenger to argue with people in a good manner as Allah the Exalted says: “Argue with people in a good manner.” And that’s on his right of disputing the people of the Book. Allah, the Almighty, told Moses and his brother Aaron (peace of Allah be upon them) when Allah ordained them to invite Pharaon and talk to him as Allah say: “And speak to him mildly, perhaps he may accept admonition or fear (Allah).

3- Clemency and Tolerance:

It was narrated by Ibn Abbas that the Prophet said to Ashaj Abdul-Qais, “You possess two qualities that Allah loves. These are clemency and tolerance.” (Reported by Muslim)

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