Surat Al Baqarah (223-233)

{نِسَاؤُكُمْ حَرْثٌ لَكُمْ فَأْتُوا حَرْثَكُمْ أَنَّى شِئْتُمْ وَقَدِّمُوا لِأَنْفُسِكُمْ وَاتَّقُوا اللهَ وَاعْلَمُوا أَنَّكُمْ مُلَاقُوهُ وَبَشِّرِ المُؤْمِنِينَ} [البقرة: 223]

223- Those wives are the mothers of your children, so have sexual intercourse with them the way you want whether from the front side or from the back side provided that sex should be in the vulva and not in anus.

You should pave the way before sexual intercourse by foreplay, remember Allah and obey Him, and do not transgress the limits set by Allah in that concern.

Know that you will meet your Lord on the Day of the Recompense to reckon you for all your deeds. Give glad tidings to those who obey Allah with things that please them.

 

{وَلَا تَجْعَلُوا اللهَ عُرْضَةً لِأَيْمَانِكُمْ أَنْ تَبَرُّوا وَتَتَّقُوا وَتُصْلِحُوا بَيْنَ النَّاسِ وَاللهُ سَمِيعٌ عَلِيمٌ} [البقرة: 224]

224- If you make an oath with Allah and confirmed that then you realized that you have made a mistake, do not let this oath prevent you from doing what is right or stand as barrier between you and doing good, being pious, and reconciling between people and kinship. You are asked to expiate your oath and do what is right.

 

{لَا يُؤَاخِذُكُمُ اللهُ بِاللَّغْوِ فِي أَيْمَانِكُمْ وَلَكِنْ يُؤَاخِذُكُمْ بِمَا كَسَبَتْ قُلُوبُكُمْ وَاللهُ غَفُورٌ حَلِيمٌ} [البقرة: 225]

225- Allah does punish you for the unintentional oaths you made, but He will reckon you for what you meant, intended with your hearts, and confirmed; that is what needs expiation. Allah forgives His Servants for He is the Most Forgiving for their sins.

 

 

{لِلَّذِينَ يُؤْلُونَ مِنْ نِسَائِهِمْ تَرَبُّصُ أَرْبَعَةِ أَشْهُرٍ فَإِنْ فَاءُوا فَإِنَّ اللهَ غَفُورٌ رَحِيمٌ} [البقرة: 226]

226- Those who swear not to have sexual intercourse with their wives have four months to go back to them and have sexual intercourse with them, otherwise their wives have the right to ask for divorce. Judges force the husband to divorce his wife if he does not have sexual intercourse with her. In case a husband goes back to his wife, he has to pay an oath penance according to the majority of scholars. May Allah forgive him for he intended to harm his wife and bestow mercy upon his return to her who is considered one of his subjects.

 

{وَإِنْ عَزَمُوا الطَّلَاقَ فَإِنَّ اللهَ سَمِيعٌ عَلِيمٌ} [البقرة: 227]

227- When the four months are over and a husband still has the intention to divorce his wife, he should do so and end the whole matter. Divorce is not effective, according to the majority of scholars, as soon as the four months are over, but he must divorce her otherwise the judge forces him to do so as long as he does not want her. Verily, Allah is All-Hearer of what has happened in the matter of divorce and the talks that are uttered. He is also All-Knowing of what they intended.

 

{وَالمُطَلَّقَاتُ يَتَرَبَّصْنَ بِأَنْفُسِهِنَّ ثَلَاثَةَ قُرُوءٍ وَلَا يَحِلُّ لَهُنَّ أَنْ يَكْتُمْنَ مَا خَلَقَ اللهُ فِي أَرْحَامِهِنَّ إِنْ كُنَّ يُؤْمِنَّ بِاللهِ وَاليَوْمِ الآَخِرِ وَبُعُولَتُهُنَّ أَحَقُّ بِرَدِّهِنَّ فِي ذَلِكَ إِنْ أَرَادُوا إِصْلَاحًا وَلَهُنَّ مِثْلُ الَّذِي عَلَيْهِنَّ بِالمَعْرُوفِ وَلِلرِّجَالِ عَلَيْهِنَّ دَرَجَةٌ وَاللهُ عَزِيزٌ حَكِيمٌ} [البقرة: 228]

228- Divorced women have to wait for three consecutive menses or three consecutive periods of purity after divorce in order to end their `Iddah [waiting period], then they may marry whom they want. This ruling is for divorced women except the pregnant women whose `Iddah will end when they deliver their babies. As for the divorced women who were divorced before their husbands could consummate marriage with them and the young divorced who does not menstruate or the old whose menopause has ceased, their `Iddah is three months which is near to the normal women.

The meaning of three periods of purity is if they started their third time of their menses, then their `Iddah has ended.

the meaning of three menses is there `Iddah will not end until they are purified from the third time of menses.

It is prohibited for them to conceal their pregnancy or menstruation if they are truly believing women in order to elongate or shorten their `Iddah. They may conceal their pregnancy conceal in order not wait until they deliver their babies because this is the `Iddah of the pregnant women. When their husbands want to go back to them in marriage, they lie and say they have ended their third time of menses in order not to go back to them. Or they may say: they did not have their third time of menses when they already did in order to take the alimony from the husband.

It is obligatory for them to say the truth and do not deceive their husbands because that will lead to some results such as the right of the husband to take his wife back in marriage and the rights of the lineage and so on.

Their husbands who divorced them are entitled to take them back in marriage as long as they are in the `Iddah if they want to maintain the relationship with their wives not to harm and oppress them. This ruling is for the divorced women who have been divorced twice and their divorce is revocable. In this case, they may go back to their husbands as will be shown in the following Ayah.

Men have rights over women as women have rights over men, so let everyone fulfil his duty toward the other.

Men are ranked in a higher degree than women because they are responsible for the household. Men are like princes who must be obeyed as long as he commands goodness. They are entitled to do so because of the qualities of manhood, power, spending on their wives, taking care for their affairs, etc.

Allah is All-Able to take revenge of those who disobeyed and disagreed to Him. He is Wise in what He legislated of rulings and benefits.

 

{الطَّلَاقُ مَرَّتَانِ فَإِمْسَاكٌ بِمَعْرُوفٍ أَوْ تَسْرِيحٌ بِإِحْسَانٍ وَلَا يَحِلُّ لَكُمْ أَنْ تَأْخُذُوا مِمَّا آَتَيْتُمُوهُنَّ شَيْئًا إِلَّا أَنْ يَخَافَا أَلَّا يُقِيمَا حُدُودَ اللهِ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا يُقِيمَا حُدُودَ اللهِ فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِمَا فِيمَا افْتَدَتْ بِهِ تِلْكَ حُدُودُ اللهِ فَلَا تَعْتَدُوهَا وَمَنْ يَتَعَدَّ حُدُودَ اللهِ فَأُولَئِكَ هُمُ الظَّالِمُونَ} [البقرة: 229]

229- A husband may divorce his wife twice then he has two options:

- Either to take her back in marriage when he intends to maintain the relationship between him and his wife and in this case it is better for a wife to go back to him.

- Or to divorce her for the third time. In this case he should treat her kindly and do not treat her unjustly in terms of her rights.

It is not lawful for you, husbands, to confine and bother them to ransom themselves for divorce and give you back the gifts, charities, and money that you gave them even if they are few.

If the spouses fight and the wife is no longer maintain the rights of her husband or unable to have sexual intercourse with him, she may ransom herself with money so as to divorce her; that is called Khul`[divorcing one's wife in return of money that she pays]. There is no harm on the husband to take such money.

This is one of the rulings that are set by Allah for you, so do not transgress them with disobedience and refusal. Those who transgress them and do not act according to them are oppressors and expose themselves to the wrath and punishment of Allah.

 

{فَإِنْ طَلَّقَهَا فَلَا تَحِلُّ لَهُ مِنْ بَعْدُ حَتَّى تَنْكِحَ زَوْجًا غَيْرَهُ فَإِنْ طَلَّقَهَا فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِمَا أَنْ يَتَرَاجَعَا إِنْ ظَنَّا أَنْ يُقِيمَا حُدُودَ اللهِ وَتِلْكَ حُدُودُ اللهِ يُبَيِّنُهَا لِقَوْمٍ يَعْلَمُونَ} [البقرة: 230]

230- if a husband divorce his wife for the third time, he is no long capable of going back to her in marriage but after she marries another man with the intention of perpetual marriage and then something happened to end their marriage. In this case, she may go back for her first husband with a new marriage contract if they know that they will live together ever happily.

These are the laws, rulings, commands, and prohibitions of Allah that He explains to those who want to understand them to benefit from.

{وَإِذَا طَلَّقْتُمُ النِّسَاءَ فَبَلَغْنَ أَجَلَهُنَّ فَأَمْسِكُوهُنَّ بِمَعْرُوفٍ أَوْ سَرِّحُوهُنَّ بِمَعْرُوفٍ وَلَا تُمْسِكُوهُنَّ ضِرَارًا لِتَعْتَدُوا وَمَنْ يَفْعَلْ ذَلِكَ فَقَدْ ظَلَمَ نَفْسَهُ وَلَا تَتَّخِذُوا آَيَاتِ اللهِ هُزُوًا وَاذْكُرُوا نِعْمَةَ اللهِ عَلَيْكُمْ وَمَا أَنْزَلَ عَلَيْكُمْ مِنَ الكِتَابِ وَالحِكْمَةِ يَعِظُكُمْ بِهِ وَاتَّقُوا اللهَ وَاعْلَمُوا أَنَّ اللهَ بِكُلِّ شَيْءٍ عَلِيمٌ} [البقرة: 231]

231- If you have divorced your wives revocable divorce, you still can bring them back in marriage, so you have to treat them kindly if their `Iddah are about to end. You either take them back in marriage and be kind to them or divorce them. They will be divorced as soon as their `Iddah ends. She may go out from the house of her husband without injustice or abuse.

It is not permissible for you to lock them up in homes in order to elongate their `Iddah with the intention of harming them while you know that you will divorce them. He who does that has disobeyed the commands of Allah.

 It is not permissible for you to take advantage of the concessions and the Shari`ah rulings to mockery and harm such as one of you may say: I have divorced my wife, then he says: I have taken her in marriage again. Indeed, the matter of divorce is serious and `Iddah and re-marriage are real opportunities for consideration, reform, and restoring the marriage relationship.

Remember the blessings that Allah bestowed upon you such as sending the Messenger to you along with the Noble Qur'an and the purified Sunnah. Fear Allah, and be careful in things that you take or leave. Know that nothing is hidden from Allah of what you intend or do, and He shall reward or retribute you for it.

{وَإِذَا طَلَّقْتُمُ النِّسَاءَ فَبَلَغْنَ أَجَلَهُنَّ فَلَا تَعْضُلُوهُنَّ أَنْ يَنْكِحْنَ أَزْوَاجَهُنَّ إِذَا تَرَاضَوْا بَيْنَهُمْ بِالمَعْرُوفِ ذَلِكَ يُوعَظُ بِهِ مَنْ كَانَ مِنْكُمْ يُؤْمِنُ بِاللهِ وَاليَوْمِ الآَخِرِ ذَلِكُمْ أَزْكَى لَكُمْ وَأَطْهَرُ وَاللهُ يَعْلَمُ وَأَنْتُمْ لَا تَعْلَمُونَ} [البقرة: 232]

232- O husbands, if you have divorced your wives and the `Iddah for the first time divorce has ended and you still have the chance to take them back in marriage, it is not permissible for you, O guardians of the wives, to hold them at you and prevent them to go back to their husbands if they reconciled and wanted to continue their marriage. This is what Allah guides you to if you are true believers and fear Allah and His Punishment on the Day of Reckoning. Following the legislation of Allah in this regard is better to remove the ailments of yourselves.

Allah knows the things that reform your affairs, so He legislate for you which is best for you while you know not, so leave aside your opinions and obey His.

{وَالوَالِدَاتُ يُرْضِعْنَ أَوْلَادَهُنَّ حَوْلَيْنِ كَامِلَيْنِ لِمَنْ أَرَادَ أَنْ يُتِمَّ الرَّضَاعَةَ وَعَلَى المَوْلُودِ لَهُ رِزْقُهُنَّ وَكِسْوَتُهُنَّ بِالمَعْرُوفِ لَا تُكَلَّفُ نَفْسٌ إِلَّا وُسْعَهَا لَا تُضَارَّ وَالِدَةٌ بِوَلَدِهَا وَلَا مَوْلُودٌ لَهُ بِوَلَدِهِ وَعَلَى الوَارِثِ مِثْلُ ذَلِكَ فَإِنْ أَرَادَا فِصَالًا عَنْ تَرَاضٍ مِنْهُمَا وَتَشَاوُرٍ فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِمَا وَإِنْ أَرَدْتُمْ أَنْ تَسْتَرْضِعُوا أَوْلَادَكُمْ فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْكُمْ إِذَا سَلَّمْتُمْ مَا آَتَيْتُمْ بِالمَعْرُوفِ وَاتَّقُوا اللهَ وَاعْلَمُوا أَنَّ اللهَ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ بَصِيرٌ} [البقرة: 233]

233- the mothers, whether they are divorced or not, should breast-feed their babies for two full years if they want to breast-feed them a complete suckling. there is no consideration to breast-feeding after that period.

The expenditure of the divorced mothers is incumbent on the fathers: food, drink, and clothes; according to their social status and according to the custom of each time without extravagance or miserliness. A person shall not bear beyond his capacity.

The father has no right to take away the baby from the mother and give it to another who agreed to suckle the baby to harm the mother. The mother is also not entitled to give the baby to its father to bother him.

The heirs or the guardians should observe this matter as fathers do: in terms of not harming the baby and spending on its mother.

If the parents want to wean the baby away from its mother's milk before completing two years, by mutual consent and without causing harm to it, there is no harm of doing so. It is not permissible for one of them to decide that alone in order to protect the helpless baby.

If both parents agreed to breast-feed the baby by another woman or the mother refused to suckle it for a reason or without reason, there is no harm on them to do so if you give the wet nurse the agreed upon fees for suckling the baby.

Fear Allah in all your conditions and let it be known that Allah is acquainted with your sayings and conditions. Indeed, nothing is hidden from Him and He shall reward or retribute you for your deeds.