Shams An-Nahar said: I want to ask you, O philosopher of the time: Why do husbands complain after marrying the dream girl?!
The philosopher said: Some men believe that marriage has become a constraint for them. They were freemen but marriage caused them to be locked in an iron cage, and their relationships with their partners have become a big struggle, and turned into:
Attack, escape, coming forward, going backward
as a hard rock that fell from a high place by a flow.
Shams An-Nahar said: Did a husband forget that he was the one who betrothed her, he was the one who paid the dowry, and the one who hurried for her nearness?!
The philosopher said: Yes, he was looking for someone to share his life with, he was looking for a loving and fertile woman, however he found himself in the middle of a sea of responsibilities, and he believes that she was the one who troubled him!
Shams Al-Nahar said: Was not she the sole commander in her parent's house, she was the dear and the spoiled. The sights of love were heading to her, telling her: You are the flower of the house and the captivating for our hearts?!
Was not he the one who came to ask for her consent, promising her with happy and prosperous life, and seeking children —and she helped him in that— which they begot to fill the emptiness of his life and light the kindle of his joy? Will she be guilty after all?!
The philosopher said: Yes, the meaning of Rafa' is mutual understanding between the spouses and to have mutual ideas and orientation. Understanding is very important between spouses, and this understanding generates generation that can carry the burden of the future, and raise the banners of Islam high. However, how it will be the case if children are raised in a family dominated by disagreements and discord between the parents?
Rearing in such a family shall be lost, and this family shall produce a generation of wrecked future youth who neither know their religion nor their world.
He was a free man, and she was also free, and responsibilities chained them both. He carries things to the house and she also enters the kitchen and washes dishes. He recalls these past days and years in yearn and she recalls them too.
Shams An-Nahar said: Then we see a husband regretting what he has done and wishing that days would return so as not to repeat the mistake, and advise the single not to marry and a believer cannot be stung twice from the same situation. However, if he had the chance to remarry again, he will not hesitate!
The philosopher said: You have said the truth, O Shams An-Nahar. A husband should thank His Lord for the grace he has been through: good wife, children, and family, and stop regretting.
A smart wife is the one who can deal with her husband skillfully because we all know that there is no perfect husband, therefore, you shall find some defaults in his character when dealing with him.
Shams An-Nahar said: Love, longing, and fascination are sweet, and it is beautiful that both spouses treat one another with affection and altruism.
The philosopher said: Yes, I was pleased with your opinion and this is the best proof for your wisdom.
Shams An-Nahar said: Yes, truly I am happy with your opinion, O philosopher, and see you tomorrow.
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