My husband and the girl of mobile

Hello my dear, your short brief and abbreviation stopped us from figuring out the whole situation with more accuracy, how long have you been married? How long is the period between the first problem and your discovery of the SIM?

The first thing which we must stress is: What your husband is doing is prohibited and rejected by Shari`ah and custom.

A woman does not approve that action from her husband exactly as a man rejects it if it has been done by a wife.

Anyway, the solution is not in confrontation because it may add fuel to fire, and it may create between you and your husband a bigger problem that takes you away to unpraised things.

The solution is not "disregarding" the problem because it may widen the gap between you and your husband, and the biggest problems may arise because of small and simple matters which we did not pay attention to. We keep silent about that problem because we did not want to disturb the other party or we thought that there is no way for improvement and change.

However, we could not get rid of its persistence and our need to it, so we searched for what makes us comfortable and cool whether it was permissible or unlawful.

This matter may happen without recognizing the connection between both matters, meaning that we do not link between what disturbs us and what we do. We think that they are two separate matters.

The best for you, O my dear, is to search for the things that your husband loves in you and seek his desires to fulfill.

Sit together in a warm and intimate session and each one of them should say what he or she wants and get annoyed by or things which he or she hates in the other partner with love, intimacy, and calmness without accusation or slander.

Dear sister, if you are in the beginning of your marital life, the matter will be a remnant from the bachelor life and he could not get rid of.

As long as he promised you in the first time and he repeated the action again, help him this time without making him feel that.

Try to capture him with your love and pamper, and make him love you and yearn for you whenever you are absent.

If it has been long time for your marriage, boredom is something expected familiarity and routine kill everything beautiful around us, so try to renew and change some routines that you got used to. Go in a short vacation together and to a romantic and beautiful place to renew your love and restore the delight to your relationship.

Do jointly things that you did not do before and enjoy the first experiment. That is all I got and I shall leave the rest to you because you know your husband, life, and happiness better than I do, and add delight and magic to your life again.

Love has a power that turns everything to beauty and marvelousness, and adds to it something from the magic of the moon which if we ponder and look at, we do not get bored.

Search for happiness well and enjoy it again. May Allah grant you success, love, intimacy, and comfort! May Allah make you a joy and comfort for one another, and send us your news.