How to Protect our Families from the Fire (4/6)

Some dissolute  female  companions  might  teach  our  women matters which  corrupt  the  nature or  religion,  as  some  men mention that  their   wives  ask  to  have  intercourse in  an  area prohibited by legislation, and  she  informed him that her  friend does  that with  her  husband, and  refuge is sought with  Allah the Exalted.

We  must be  keen  that the  women  in  our  family  should  save their  time  and  not waste  it.  Some women waste their time in long phone calls without any benefit that is worth mentioning. So, the caller to Allah the Exalted must guide their family and inform them of the value of time.

Likewise, one must teach women the etiquette of speaking to non-related men, the recommended mannerisms and perils thereof. They should be taught how to answer the phone if the caller is a non-related man. Also, they should  make  sure  that when a woman  is going  to a wedding  or feast or places  such  as those    places,  that   nothing  reprehensible  occurs   in  such festivities.

They should  also  be  watchful over  the  covering  of the woman when she goes out, and  should  make  sure  it is long, covers  the whole body,  is thick, is not scented, does not resemble clothes of men or disbelieving women, and is loose rather than tight.

Unfortunately, some people who ascribe themselves to Islam display manners that are more suited to a cuckold or someone whose sense of right and wrong is dull.

Due to that, they do not care for the modesty and Islamic covering of their wife, daughters, or sisters. So, you find them allowing their daughters to go out however they want and with whomever they want. They have no one watching over them or taking them to account. If such an individual is reprimanded for that, his excuse is that she is still young and that he trusts her completely.

Some people take their womenfolk to gardens and parks, and there, he allows   her to play around as they wish and   do whatever they  want. Some parts of their bodies might become uncovered and their covering would be neglected.

Even  more  disastrous  is  that some  people   do  not  ask  their women  where  they  are  going  and  where  they  are  coming  from. A man  would be ordered by his wife or daughter to drive  them to  a  particular  place,   and  he  would  comply   without  asking about the  reason  they are  going  there or  the  place  they  are going to.

Worse than that is that he drops her off there and allows her to return with a chauffeur. Does not this grievous matter lead to reprehensible actions that in turn lead to great calamities in society?

A  man  is  responsible  for  all  of  this,  and  you  have  a  good example  in  Allah’s  Messenger, sallAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam. He, sallAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, used  to have great protective zeal  for  his  wives,  as  reported that ‘Aa’ishah, may  Allah  be pleased  with  her,  said  that the  Prophet,  sallAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, entered on her  while there was a man  sitting with  her, and that severely  bothered him.

She said:  “I noticed anger in his face, and then he, sallAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said: “O ‘Aa’ishah, who is this?” I said: ‘This is my brother due to suckling.’ He, sallAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said: “Be careful of whom you consider your brothers through suckling, because suckling only occurs when the child is suckled at a young enough age that breast milk satisfies them, and they are suckled to the point that they are full.”[1] Meaning, before allowing a man to enter your homes and claiming that they are your brothers from suckling, make sure that suckling actually occurred in the timeframe that is recognized, or if it occurred in a timeframe that is not recognized, making the impermissibility of marriage thereafter invalid.

Fourth: Warning the family of the dangers of the people of misguidance:

One of the most important ways to save the family from deviation and misguidance is to teach them the practices and dangers of criminals and                             the people of misguidance in how they misguide others due to their vileness by presenting misguidance and sin in beautiful manners, and calling it by another name.

Two of the most important things that one must warn the women of are:

• Certain criminals try  to incite  them  to  remove  their covering  and take  them  out of their  homes in order  to enjoy  themselves with her,  and  they  call it "freedom" of women.

• Undermining the Islamic family and its size, and lessening the size of the Islamic Ummah, and they call it the plan of birth control.

These  calls  have  been  given  by  many  satellite  channels that have  been   established  solely  in  order   to  destroy homes   and manners and to kill modesty and shyness.

Fifth: Safeguarding the home from blameworthy matters:

Many fathers are negligent regarding their families and children during these times.

A child might watch something reprehensible in the home, which would embed itself in their mind slowly and their heart would become inclined to sinful actions.

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