As-salamu `Alaykum warahmatullah wabarakatuh (May Allah's Peace, Mercy, and Blessings be upon you!).
I hope you are in good condition. My question is: We have a satellite that exists in all houses except for a few. I have encoded the channels which broadcast movies and series because they harm more than benefit; that is to protect the family, especially my father, from watching sinful scenes because he was the one who brought it to the house out of his ignorance of religion. My intention was to prevent the prohibited matters such as watching naked women, imitating non-Muslims in their actions, and follow-up the series which violate the shyness of the family members, besides other kinds of deniable acts. However, the family members, whether my parents or my brothers, denied that and my parents consider it part of disobedience and severity, whereas the rest consider it controlling of the house. By Allah, is this severity and control? Could you kindly advise? May Allah bless you and reward you. Peace be upon you.
Praise be to Allah, and peace be upon the Messenger of Allah, his family, Companions, and those who follow him. May Allah reward you for your jealousy and fear for the prescribed boundaries of Allah. As for your objection to your family and enjoining good and forbidding evil, it is one of the duties of Shari`ah which are confirmed in the right of the relatives. It was reported from Abu Sa`id Al Khudry (may Allah be pleased with him) that he said: I heard the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) saying: "Whoever amongst you sees an evil, he must change it with his hand; however if he is unable to do so, then with his tongue; and if he is unable to do so, then with his heart; and that is the weakest form of Faith." [Sahih Muslim].
Imam An-Nawawy (may Allah bestow mercy on his soul) said in Sharh Muslim.
As for the Prophet's saying: "he must change it," it is a command according to Ijma` (consensus of scholars) of the nation.
The command of enjoining good and forbidding evil is confirmed by the Qur'an, the Sunnah, and Ijma` of the nation, as it is also part of advice which is part of the religion. Allah threatened those who commit evil and transgress limits with cursing. Allah (Glory be to Him) says: "Those among the Children of Israel who disbelieved were cursed by the tongue of Dâwûd (David) and 'Isâ (Jesus), son of Maryam (Mary). That was because they disobeyed (Allâh and the Messengers) and were ever transgressing beyond bounds. * They used not to forbid one another from Al-Munkar (wrong, evil-doing, sins, polytheism, disbelief) which they committed. Vile indeed was what they used to do." [Surat Al Ma'idah: 78 - 79].
You have to maintain the Shari`ah etiquettes which were reported in the book of Allah and the Sunnah of the Prophet when you advise your family; of these etiquettes:
The first: Your call must be based on knowledge, and begin with the most important then the less important, and with the nearest to understanding with gentleness and easiness. Your objection should be mixed with exhortation and warning along with mentioning the benefits of what you command them with, and counting the harms of what they watch. Allah (Glory be to Him) says: "Invite (mankind, O Muhammad peace be upon him) to the Way of your Lord (i.e., Islâm) with wisdom (i.e., with the Divine Revelation and the Qur'ân) and fair preaching, and argue with them in a way that is better. Truly, your Lord knows best who has gone astray from His Path, and He is the Best Knower of those who are guided." [Surat An-Nahl: 125].
Be careful not to fall into cruelty, dissension, or insult in order not to waste your effort and do not get any benefit, and let your intention always be the desire to guide them to the truth.
The second: Observe patience because the one who enjoins good and forbids evil should be patient for the troubles he shall face; seek the reward from Allah (may He be Exalted) and let it be known that the consequence of patience is good. There is nothing a Muslim gains better than the reward of patience. It was reported in Sahih Al Bukhari and Sahih Muslim from the Hadith of Abu Sa`id Al Khudry (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: "And whoever remains patient, Allah will make him patient. Nobody can be given a blessing better and greater than patience."
The third: Beware of unease and discontent, do not rush up things, and do not despair of reforming them, but you have to look optimistically and to follow by all possible means to promote your family, following the good manners of Islam such as leniency with the invited, soft speech, and good expression along with your firmness on the truth and keeping away from disgracing others. Allah (may He be Exalted) created people different in their religion, mind, possibilities, and knowledge that pushes to continuity.
The fourth: Beware of cutting the ties of kinship, and seek the pleasure of your parents and their satisfaction in things which do not contain disobedience to Allah because their satisfaction is connected with the pleasure of Allah (Glory be to Him). At-Tirmidhy reported on the authority of `Abdullah ibn `Amr that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: "The pleasure of the Lord lies in the pleasure of the parent. The anger of the Lord lies in the anger of the parent."
At-Tirmidhy reported on the authority of Abu Ad-Darda' that he said: I heard the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) saying: "A parent is the best of the gates of Paradise; so if you wish, keep to the gate, or lose it."