Prophet Muhammad: The Ideal Husband – II

The Prophet, (peace be upon him), would teach his wives to guard their tongues:Due to the numerous harms of the tongue, the Muslim husband should instruct his wife and teach her how to guard her tongue and use it appropriately. Two of the most destructive diseases of the tongue which a husband should be especially wary of are backbiting and tale-bearing. The Prophet, (peace be upon him), was very keen to protect his wives from any such diseases and would immediately correct them and instruct them in this regard.‘Aa’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, said, “I said to the Prophet (peace be upon him) ‘Such and such a matter of Safiyyah is sufficient for you (meaning that she was a woman of short stature).’ He (peace be upon him)said: ‘You have uttered a statement that would pollute the (entire) sea if it were mixed in it.’”

She, may Allah be pleased with her, further stated, “I once imitated a person in his presence and he said:‘I would never like to imitate anyone, even (if I was paid) such and such an amount (for doing so).’”[Abu Daawood and At-Tirmithi]

♦ The Prophet, (peace be upon him), would teach his wives to control their tongues, even with their enemies:`Aa’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, said, “A group of non-believers once came to the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him)and said, ‘As-Saam 'Alayk (i.e. death (be) upon you).’ He (peace be upon him)responded, saying: ‘Wa 'Alaykum (i.e. and upon you).’”

`Aa’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, said, “I said, ‘Death be upon you, and the curse of Allah and His wrath!' He (peace be upon him)said: ‘O `Aa’ishah! Do not use coarse language.’”

`Aa’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, said, “O Messenger of Allah! Did you not hear what they said?” He, (peace be upon him), said: ‘Did you not hear me replying to them with the same term? Allah does not like the use of coarse language.’[Al-Bukhari]

In spite of the fact that those disbelievers were his enemies, the Prophet, (peace be upon him), limited his retaliation to the extent to which he was wronged and did not transgress, otherwise, people would become accustomed to using strong language with one another.

♦ How the Prophet, (peace be upon him), dealt with jealousy:Jealousy is a natural feeling in women, and the Prophet, (peace be upon him), dealt with this in a manner that reflected his wisdom and tolerance. Anas, may Allah be pleased with him, reported,

“Once the Prophet (peace be upon him)was in the room of ‘Aa’ishah, may Allah be pleased her, when another of his wives sent him a plate of food. This enraged ‘Aa’ishah, may Allah be pleased her, who became jealous due to the fact that the food was sent while it was her turn to be with the Prophet (peace be upon him). She, may Allah be pleased her, therefore took hold of the plate and threw it, smashing it to pieces. The Prophet (peace be upon him)then gathered the food and the broken pieces of the plate and said (jokingly): ‘Your mother (i.e. the Mother of the believers) has become jealous.’Then she, may Allah be pleased with her, regretted what she had done and asked him (peace be upon him)how to expiate for the mistake, so he (peace be upon him)commanded her to replace the broken plate by sending one of her own to the wife whose plate she had broken.” [Al-Bukhari]

♦ The Prophet, (peace be upon him), would entertain his wives: `Aa’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, said, “Once I went out with the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him)on a journey and after we had travelled for some time, he commanded his Companions to go ahead and leave us behind them. When they were far enough ahead he (peace be upon him)said to me: ‘Let us race.’So we raced, and I won. A few years later, and after I had put on some weight, he (peace be upon him)took me along on another journey, and after we had travelled for some time, he commanded his Companions to go ahead and leave us behind them. When they were far enough ahead he (peace be upon him)said to me: ‘Let us race.’We raced and this time he (peace be upon him)won, so he (peace be upon him)said to me:‘This one for that one.’”

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