Prophet Muhammad: The Ideal Husband - III

•  The Prophet, (peace be upon him), would teach his wives to deal fairly and justly: The Prophet, (peace be upon him),set a practical example in this issue, just he did in all the other values that he encouraged. This is demonstrated by his justice between his wives. Whenever he, (peace be upon him)intended to go out on a journey, he, (peace be upon him), would draw lots between them to see who among them would accompany him on the trip. This was narrated by his wife `Aa’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her. [Al-Bukhari and Muslim] His, (peace be upon him), dealing with them justly would certainly have been a more influential in instilling the quality of justice in them.

• His, (peace be upon him)good conduct with his wives: Allah The Almighty instructs us to treat women kindly when He Says (what means):{…and live with them in kindness...}[Quran 4: 19]The meaning of this verse is, talk to them with kind words, treat them gently and beautify yourselves to them according to your ability, just as you would like them to do for you. In conformance with this, the Prophet, (peace be upon him), said: “The best amongst you are those who treat their wives the best, and indeed, I am the best amongst you in treating my wives.”[Ibn Hibbaan]

Thus, the Prophet, (peace be upon him), treated his wives kindly and gently. He, (peace be upon him), was always smiling at them, joking with them, spending on them generously and entertaining them.

He, (peace be upon him)would meet all his wives every night in the apartment of the one with whom he would spend that night. He would eat dinner with them all at the same time, and then each of them would go back to her apartment. He used to return home after the ‘Ishaa` prayer and converse with his wife before going to sleep.

• The Prophet, (peace be upon him)would consult his wives: When the Prophet, (peace be upon him)signed a peace treaty with the Quraysh and he agreed not to continue his trip to perform the pilgrimage, he, (peace be upon him), commanded his Companions, may Allah be pleased with them, to slaughter the sacrificial animals they had brought with them. The Companions, may Allah be pleased with them, were in a state of shock and were saddened by the fact that they were being prevented from performing their act of worship. Therefore, when he, (peace be upon him), commanded them, they did not reply, nor did they move. He, (peace be upon him), entered the tent of his wife Umm Salamah may Allah be pleased with her, informed her of the reaction of his Companions, may Allah be pleased with them, and consulted her as to what to do. Umm Salamah, may Allah be pleased with her, said, “Go out and do not talk to anyone and slaughter your sacrificial animal and call the barber and shave your head.” No sooner had he (peace be upon him)done as she suggested than the Companions, may Allah be pleased with them, got up and followed his, (peace be upon him), example. [Ahmad]

• His, (peace be upon him)gentleness with his wives:Safiyyah may Allah be pleased with her, narrated, “The Prophet (peace be upon him)went out to perform Hajj and took his wives along on the trip. After traveling a part of the journey, my camel knelt down and I was the most exhausted of them all (the wives) so I started crying. The Prophet (peace be upon him)came to me and wiped my tears with his garment.”[Ahmad]

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