My family prefer boys to girls

Dear Muslim sister, welcome to Alukah Network, and I ask Allah, the Generous, to change your conditions to the better and bring joy to your heart and help you.

In fact, I was terribly hurt by your words and I was terrified of the actions of your parents to their daughters, for it is not permissible by any means to prefer one of the children to others, and preferring boys to girls is very common in our Arabian Houses.

However, I want you to go easy with yourself and make frequent invocations for your parents with guidance and righteousness. There is no harm to seek the help of your relatives or friends to mediate between you and your parents to be able to interfere and fix things up. Moreover, search for good companionship which helps you remove the pain and sorrows, and start to practice your favorite sports.

You and your sister should share that and use the time to compete in memorizing the Qur'an, reading the Prophetic biography, or history or any other field you like, and search for your hobbies such as drawing, sewing, etc.

You should also practice different sports for they release negative energy and renew activity and vitality. During this time, speak to your parents politely, be kind to them, and do not frown in their faces, perhaps one day they feel their mistake and change their attitude toward you.

Be keen to please them and do everything they love even if they do not ask. And remember whatever happened, do not disagree with them because we cannot forget their favor. We also do not forget Allah's Saying: "And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents." [Surat Al Isra': 23].

Finally, I ask Allah to help you in your condition, grant you patience, help you to show kindness to them, and do not stop invoking Allah for them.