Changing of relationships

After achieving success in your five basic aspects then you began to change your views, goals, and role model, you will find that your model example will tell you to do two matters: To change your relationships and to develop your skills. So, what are the steps to change your relationships?

The first expert can tell you to communicate with others because they shall be more useful to you in your specialty. In most cases, those people would be responsible in centers or people of great achievements; by these recommendations, it will become easy for you to communicate.

Do not forget that the role models of the second raw have also some of the first raw qualities, so plan well to meet them.

Check the following steps in changing relationships:

First, how can you get new relationships?

1- Experts: We spoke enough about your conditions and communicating with experts.

2- Forums, conferences, and training sessions: Choose some of your relationships from among the audience and listeners who are active and positive.

3- Specialized societies: Ask experts and search the internet for the most prominent societies in your specialty in your country.

4- Universities and institutes: The most powerful and active people you shall find in universities and clubs.

5- Advertise in TV, forums, and Youtube about your wish to establish a team that takes part in your civil activity.

Second, how to get prepared for new encounters:

I attended many meetings organized by people of high ambitions, and I found out that most of them fall in mistakes that focus on unsound planning for the encounter. In the following steps, you shall find the ideal readiness for building relationships with projects mates:

1- Identify what exactly you want from the future team and make your view clear which is the final objective which we mentioned in previous articles. Put a stage goal needed to be achieved within one or two years along with its project.

2- First, review your idea on a counselor of strategic planning to know the possible alternatives.

3- Train well on the following skills: Speech, dialogue, strategic planning, project managing, and leading a team.

4- Before the meeting, search for the powerful youth to establish a project and do not forget that they have ambitions for leadership, so let them take your side.

5- Focus well on the skills of presentation and use them to explain your plans.

6- At the beginning of the meeting pronounce your meeting schedules such as: The first meeting is introductory then advisory then sketchy.

7- Be equipped by several options and studied courses, and get ready for some concessions, for example: You may start after four months and not one month as you planned, and remember that flexibility is in planning and execution not in optimism and dreaming.

Third, disciplines for establishing relationships:

1- Let your intention be pure that you make this step because it draws you nearer to Allah and put before you the lawful and prohibition.

2- Search for common interests with all people and do not forsake your values and principles.

3- The members of your team are not followers but associates, and if you do not see them this way, they will forsake you at the first turn.

4- Exert efforts to provide what the team needs in order to lead them to what you want.

Fourth, methods of strengthening relationships:

1- Present special gifts for your friends.

2- Thank them publically.

3- Praise their good qualities.

4- Visit them in their homes.

5- Ask them to introduce a solution for a problem and listen to them.

6- Go with them to special events and fairs.

Fifth, be careful of those people:

You can build relationships with everyone but beware of strengthening your relationship with the following:

1- Talkative people: Once I said to one of them: If you had worked quarter the time you speak, we would have been advanced.

2- Those who reveal secrets which they have to conceal.

3- Nervous people who cannot control themselves at anger, so befriending one of them is enough to demolish a one-year building.

4- People who forget a lot or claim to forget because their harm is more than their benefit.

5- Womanish people who like to sit with women and talk about women and keep away from Manish people.

6- The expelled: Who are fired from their jobs even if they claim to be oppressed because it is not imaginable to be oppressed by all people.

7- Criminals who get into troubles every day.

Are you still with me in building civilization?! In the next episode, with Allah's Willing, we shall speak about the last pillar in change which is changing skills then the eight elements of civilization, we ask Allah to accept our deeds and make them sincere for Him.