The Instinct to Love Children

Allah Ta'ala gave us the instinct of loving children for various reasons.  The most prominent of these are:

1)   So that human race will continue as a result of us the adults having children.

2)   For us to take care of them, as a result we take care of our future.

3)  In order that the Ummah of Muhammad Ii will become vast in number.  In this regard our Prophet (Peace be upon him) said, "Marry women who are loving and affectionate.  Woman who are able to have children because it is by these women that my followers will supersede the followers of the other prophets in number on the Day of Judgement.”[1].

On the' authority of Ma'qil Ibn Yasar who said, "A man came to the Prophet (Peace be upon him) and said, 'I have found a woman of noble rank and beauty, but she does not give' birth to children. Should I marry her?   He a said 'No',   He came to him again but the Prophet (Peace be upon him) prohibited him.  He came to him the third time and the Prophet (Peace be upon him) said, “Marry women who are loving and very fertile, for I shall outnumber the peoples by you."[2]

The Holy Prophet forbade his companion from marrying a barren woman knowingly because marriage in Islam is not marginalised to the mere pleasure  of having a beautiful and noble wife  but  instead,   one  of  the  first  and  foremost  reasons  for marriage  is to produce children so that this Ummah will become strong  in number. The kafirs know this and this is the 'reason why they are quick to have Muslim; women giving birth by the caesarean section so as to limit the number of children they can have.   They .like to search for reasons to take Muslim children away so that' they will be brought up by the kafir state with kafir Aqeeda and values.  If a Muslim male should have a child from a Christian wife the kafir courts always give custody to the wife in. case of a battle for the child, because the hearts of the kafirs are alike. These unbelievers are so desperate to hamper the growth of the Muslims they went as far as to use the UN to organise world-wide conferences. in  the  Muslim  world  encouraging  the Muslim women to practice  birth  control,  abortion,  delaying of marriage and many other unhealthy western  values.[3]

Among the evidences to prove that it is a natural instinct to love children is Allah's word:

"Fair in the eyes of men is the love of things they covet: Women and children heaped-up hoards of gold and silver".[4]

"Wealth and children are the adornment of the life of this world,”[5]

"And know that your possessions and your children are but a test and that surely with Allah is a mighty reward.”[6]

The Shaitaan has used this natural instinct to lead people astray in various ways.  Some he caused to become so obsessed with their children that they sexually abuse their daughters and step-daughters. The Islamic verdict for a man who commits the crime of incest is death. Based upon the Hadith of Ibn Abbas where he reported that the holy prophet (Peace be upon him) said, "Any man who commits the crime of incest must be put to death and any man who cohabits with an animal both him and the animal must be put to death.”[7]

Also Shaitaan uses our children to tum us into cowards turning our backs on jihad.[8] And he uses our children to make us become tight fisted and stingy, refusing to give away in charity.  In this regard the holy Prophet (Peace be upon him) said, "Your children at times make you become tight-fisted and cowards."[9]

Likewise the Shaitaan has caused many people to lose their natural instinct.  There are a growing number of women in the world today who are refusing to have children, claiming that it will affect their career, and the shape of their bodies.  Some well to do women in the west even go as far as to hire the wombs of less fortunate women to bear, their children for them (i.e. surrogate mothers). It is amazing how people can allow others to use and exploit them for the sake of a miserable price.  One of the signs of the last day is that women will stop having children.

Many women today, who refuse to have children because they want an uninterrupted career, hire   the   womb   of   surrogate mothers.  While those who are not able to afford it wait until they are in their late thirties or early forties.   Since it is rather difficult  for  women  to  conceive  at  these  ages they  have  to  take  heavy dosages of fertility pills or even go as far as to undergo  painful operations for this purpose. Some women have lost their natural instinct of wanting to have children in its totality so they make up for it by raring animals like cat, dogs, etc.  Today many countries in the west have an ageing population due to their denial of this vital instinct.